“…because he understood that something as simple as a little haircut could change the way a man feels inside.”
These #COVID19 quarantine weekends have been tough for me to deal with lately. I’m not sure if its been #FOMO, boredom, sadness or just the blahs – but whatever it is I know the weekends have felt distinctly different than the week days. Yesterday (Sunday) I decided to do something different to change my energy. I tried a new workout, walked a new trail, ate crab legs, watched a good movie, video chatted with mom and scheduled a haircut with my barber. ((Boom)) #InstantEnergyChanger. I don’t know, maybe I just kept myself active & busy, but what I do know is that I felt better by bedtime and I slept good last night.
Over the years I’ve learned that the ebbs and flows of life will likely leave us more out of balance than in balance. The is learning how to manage those moments. Instead of beating ourselves up, blaming others, the situation or sulking about it, find healthy outlets that help you deal. Usually its something simple.
#Selfcare #selfawareness and #mentalhealth are more than just theories and ideas espoused by talking heads. They are meaningful concepts that can be defined differently by all of us. Make sure you know what they mean for YOU. Then go find ways to put those definitions into practice. Take care of yourself, be safe and cheers to the (next) freakin’ weekend. – MP
Can you believe it? The year of 2020 is almost here! Bring in the new year PREPARED with a PLAN to manifest the dreams, visions, and goals for your future. Consultant and Success Coach Mike Powell will lead you in an afternoon of goal setting, vision mapping, and networking that will empower you to step into your PURPOSE in 2020.
Maybe you’ve heard of or attended vision board events. While they can be helpful and fun, this promises to be a different kind of experience. More than just cutting out magazine pictures and pasting them on a poster board, you will learn how to set practical goals, how to prioritize your resources (time & money), how to set goals for the people you are leading, and ultimately how to create a unique plan for success that is tailored to YOUR life or YOUR organization.
WHAT WILL BE PROVIDED
- Lunch catered by Bus Boys and Poets
- Complimentary Beverages (cash bar also available)
- Goal Setting Worksheets
- Vision Mapping Materials
WHAT TO EXPECT
- A Hands-On Workshop Facilitated by Consultant and Success Coach Mike Powell ~IG: @mpconsults of The Powell Consulting Group (www.pcgconsults.com)
- Guest Speakers
- Q & A Session
- Mindfulness Activities to Increase Self-Awareness
- GoodVibes Provided by Supa Scotty the DJ
- And Much More….
WHAT TO BRING
Come to connect with and be inspired by a group of highly motivated individuals who are serious about making 2020 their best year ever. Come to discover how to align yourself with your PASSION and PURPOSE. Come to reaffirm what is most important in your life. And, come to learn how to experience the happiness, freedom, and joy you deserve in 2020 – we will see you there! #2020Vision
It’s been almost one month since I welcomed my first child into the world. On October 25th, after what felt like an eternity, my daughter, Cali Jolie Holland Powell was born – nearly 7 weeks ahead of schedule. As a result of her early ‘grand entrance’ she had to spend the first week of her life in the NICU (Neo-Natal Intensive Care Unit). While I wouldn’t wish the NICU on any parent or child because it can be very stressful and overwhelming, for us it was a blessing in disguise.
As they are with all families of babies who are born premature, the doctors were very cautious about giving us a solid timeline to bring Cali Jolie home. The dates were wide-ranging. We heard discharge dates from Halloween to Thanksgiving and everything in between. To say we were concerned would obviously be an extreme understatement. After a few days, the doctors were comfortable enough with her progress to give us specifics about when she could go home. Then, they gave us a checklist of three things she needed to accomplish before being discharged: 1) She needed to be able to regulate her own body temperature outside of her incubator, 2) She needed to consistently finish 40ml of milk/formula, and 3) She had to pass a car seat test, which required her to sit in her car seat uninterrupted for 90 minutes without any complications.
After a relatively short stay in the NICU (8 days) we were so excited when the doctors told us we could bring Cali Jolie home! Most new parents experience a “now what?!” moment after bringing their newborns home for the first time. But for us, this wasn’t the case. Working closely with the doctors, nurse practitioners, and nurses in the NICU we established goals, plans, and a routine for her while she was still in the hospital. So, upon her arrival at home, our new life was less complicated. All we needed to do was follow and execute the plan. We knew her feeding schedule, her sleep schedule, and we had metrics for how much she should be eating and using the bathroom. We also had established a pretty good system of communicating with Cali Jolie and each other.
We had a goal but more importantly we had a plan. For two first time parents that was EVERYTHING! It made a stressful situation much easier to manage. We knew what we were looking for, we knew how to support her, we knew when to ask for help, what to ask for and we knew what milestones to track and celebrate as we were on the road to achieving our goal.
As a consultant and success coach I work with individuals and teams every day to help them achieve their goals. I always emphasize the importance of not just having goals, but to have a plan, metrics, and timelines that support meeting those goals. The birth of our baby girl was a live case study of what happens when a team works together, has a goal and has a plan.
Now don’t get me wrong. Having a goal and a plan doesn’t mean that things will be easy. This situation was still difficult, scary, challenging and full of angst. However, having a goal and a plan did make it more manageable. It helped us manage our energy, our emotions, and our expectations.
We are so thankful for our team. So thankful for our plan. And so thankful that we achieved our goal – getting baby girl home. She is doing great. Growing every day. And thankfully letting Mom and Dad get some rest at night. Just like we planned it. Now the fun begins 😊.
An agency was encountering some internal communication challenges they felt only an outside firm could address. Some were process issues, some were performance issues, and some were structural issues. They brought us in to focus on the process issues. We performed assessments with focus groups and with one-on-one interviews. Over the course of two days, we met with the entire staff of about 50 people.
On the last day of our interviews, we met with a young woman, Tanya. In advance of meeting her, we learned she was very sharp but a bit reserved. As we talked to her and got her perspective, she began talking about the issues. She narrowed in on the training component. It was ineffective and it was inconsistent. People were not receiving the same training. Some people received formal training while others learned via on-the-job (OTJ) experiences.
As a result, team members pursued what they thought best. Some people took shortcuts getting the job done, which unfortunately left some gaps. Some people followed the recommended processes, which resulted in them taking more time to complete.
As we talked to Tanya, we soon realized she really, really understood what the problem was. She recommended we bring everyone together for the same training session. This would ensure everyone was on the same page, focused on the same goals in mind, and worked with the same processes.
Everything she told us fell within the solution criteria the agency was seeking. It fell within the budget scope. It fell within the planned timetable. And it fell within the resources available. In fact, it wasn’t anything super difficult to achieve. A little surprised the solution was right here, we asked Tanya, “This all makes a lot of sense. Why didn’t you share your ideas before?” She paused for a long moment and said, “I’ll be honest. No one has ever asked me.”
Tanya’s answer taught us a very important lesson. Here we had a person close to the problem, who fully understood the scope of the problem and how it was impacting individual and team performance. Most importantly, she had a solution on the tip of her tongue. The challenge for leaders and teams is to create an environment where everyone is engaged and is willing and able to give their best to help organizations achieve their mission.
If you are a leader….Are you engaging the right people? Do your people feel significant? Valued? Do they believe that their ideas are heard? That their opinions matter? If not you are missing important opportunities. If you want better conversations and better solutions, its important to ask better questions to the right people. The solutions you are seeking are there for you, you just have to ask for them.
It was a crucial moment in Shakespeare’s classic tragedy, Julius Caesar, when a soothsayer alerted Caesar, the Roman Leader, that his life was in imminent danger. “Beware the Ides of March!!!” he shouted in warning to Caesar as he passed him on a busy street. But Caesar not heeding the warning, continued on his path and was eventually killed by his colleagues in a heinous act of conspiracy. His death was a turning point in Roman history and today, the date of March 15th remains a significant date on the Roman calendar and the Ides of March serves as an annual symbol of caution.
As the first quarter of 2018 comes to an end, allow me to share with the you same words of advice that Julius Caesar received that day – “Beware the Ides of March”.
Many of us raced into the new year with a list of new goals we planned to achieve this year. We took our time. Thought them out. And even mapped out our #GoalDiggerAlerts! Although our plans to execute were sincere, many people (self-included) find ourselves already off schedule.
I realized this a few weeks ago as I was leading one of my goal setting workshops. While helping a young lady refine her goals for 2018, I realized I wasn’t even on track to reach my own. Later that evening, I looked at my vision map and discovered that of the five goals I established for myself for 2018, I’ve only made progress on a few. Of course, I have “good reasons” why I’m off-track, but the bottom line is that I’m off track. No need to sugar coat it. I have to hold myself accountable.
At that moment, I realized that like Caesar’s life, my 2018 goals were in imminent danger. But, since I know about Caesar’s tragic ending, I’m going to take proactive action to make sure my goals stay alive.
So, here’s what I did. Anytime I find myself off schedule or missing milestones, I use this process to help me figure out how to get back on track:
- Pause – Slow down. Life happens fast. Most of the time we are moving so fast and are inundated with so much data that we don’t take time to process. Take a moment. Catch your breath. Relax. Clear your mind. Give yourself an opportunity to think. To breath. Let your mind be still. This is one of the many reasons I enjoy exercise, meditation, prayer, and yoga because if I don’t intentionally take time to slow down. I probably won’t. My mind is always moving.
- Reflect – After you’ve slowed yourself down, go back and revisit your goals. Think about your why. Why you set them. Were they important? Why are they worth your time? Do you really own the goals or did they just sound good in the moment when you created them? When you created your goals, did you factor in resources? Do you need to adjust your timelines? What options do you have to get back on track? Be honest with yourself.
- Choose – Once you have paused to slow down. Reflected on your options. Now, it’s time to TAKE ACTION. Make a choice. Do something. Be thoughtful about what you do, but be intentional about doing it. Dive in. You will never learn to swim by sitting at the edge of the pool.
Time is moving fast. March 15th is here. Some of our goals are in danger. Now is the time for a progress check. The days are getting longer and the seasons are changing. Soon it will be summer. Thanksgiving and Christmas are right around the corner. Don’t go into 2019 without making any progress on your 2018 goals. The time is now. Be proactive.
What you do for the next 30 days is critical. If you are off track on your goals it’s not too late to change course. Not too late to refocus. Not late to make a change. Now is the time for an honest conversation. Take the time you need. Get the clarity you need. Take the action you need. Pause, reflect, and choose. Beware… the Ides of March. The warning has been given, the next move is yours.
Don’t get it confused! Being an entrepreneur is not all that its cracked up to be. Sure some days you will find yourself taking flights to beautiful cities, staying in nice hotels, and wining and dining clients at fancy restaurants. But there are plenty of days when you will be tired, grumpy, and frustrated. You have do things you don’t want to do and go places you don’t want to go. One week you’re at the bank cashing checks, the next week you have to find a coinstar as you wait for the checks come in. As an entrepreneur you have to kill what you eat. You sacrifice. You miss time with families, events and parties with friends. You lose sleep. Miss opportunities. And constantly ask yourself “am I doing the right thing?”. You will stumble, you will fall but make sure you get back up. If you believe in yourself, your vision, your plan and surround yourself with people who support you. You can reach your goals. And realize your dreams.
The dream is free, but the hustle is sold separately. So hang in there. Keep hustling. And when it gets tough – remember your why. Why you do it. Why you sacrifice. Why you grind. Why you struggle. Why you hustle. Remember that a calm sea never made a skilled captain. And success doesn’t happen overnight. The process may be long, slow, and painful but you have to trust it. It will be all be worth it.
Whatever you are working for, whatever your hustle is – business, school, sports, careers or anything else. Don’t stop until you find success. Keep pushing. Keep fighting. Keep believing in yourself and in your dreams. But MOST importantly keep a stash of coins somewhere just in case you need them.
You can do it. I believe in you! I’ll meet you in the winner’s circle.
Quick Story: This afternoon I was having lunch with my cousin at one of my favorite local restaurants. As we talked our waiter approached and asked to take our order. I remembered the waiter from many of my previous visits, but hadn’t seen him for some time so when I greeted him I joked about his absence. He replied that he was doing well but only recently beginning to recover from some serious health issues.
He shared that shortly before Christmas he had a sore throat. It lasted for a few weeks but instead of going to a doctor he self-diagnosed his ailment as strep-throat. To cure it he began taking a variety of “holistic” remedies. He drank a lot of juice, tea, hot-toddy. He sucked on lemons, added ginseng to his drinks and made a couple of the concoctions he’d read about on-line.
Having not gotten any better and not wanting to get his co-workers or customers sick he finally decided to go to the doctor. After running different tests the doctor informed him that the sore throat that he was experiencing wasn’t from strep at all but he was actually suffering from an early onset of diabetes.
The doctor also explained the remedies he thought he was taking to improve his condition had caused his blood sugar level to spike so high that he could’ve had a stroke or died. (Note – he was trying to help his situation by doing something, but ended up only making things worse. That feels familiar.)
After a brief stay in the hospital he was released on Christmas Eve and is now on the road to getting healthy and learning to improve his diet and exercise regimen.
Moral of the Story: There is power in asking for help! No matter how smart we think we are or how hard we try, we can’t do it all on our own. Let me let you in own a little secret – it’s ok to ask for help. It isn’t a sign of weakness rather it’s a sign of strength. Don’t let your pride or ego get in your way. And don’t the allure of appearing ok stop you from actually being ok.
Life may look great on social media, but the reality is we’re all trying to make it. And we can’t always do it alone. There are plenty of people in our lives, our network, and in our circle who are willing to help us. Don’t let fear or embarrassment of asking for help stop you from getting what you need.
Success is waiting for you so make sure you have people around you who can help you go get it! Just don’t be afraid to ask.
I’ll see you in the winner’s circle. Keep pushing.
As an entrepreneur, creating and maintaining good relationships is essential to my success. Certainly, my ability to deliver high quality products and content is vital. Writing winning proposals is crucial. And thinking critically in order to solve complex problems is a necessity. But, what I’ve learned over the years is it has been my relationships with key people that has often led to opportunities for me to accomplish many of these things.
As I reflect on the past 12 months, the experiences I’ve shared, the opportunities I’ve had and my plans for the upcoming year, I’m reminded of a conversation I recently had with a good friend. He agreed that building new relationships is important for professional growth; however, he cautioned me not to “confuse your network with your personal circle, because a person’s network should always be bigger than their circle”. His words still resonate with me as I’m discovering that the key to feeling satisfied and fulfilled in life is effectively maintaining both your circle and your network.
Our network is an ecosystem of people we are connected to either directly or through mutual relationships. Our network can be very valuable both personally and professionally by helping us to secure resources, get information, gain access or accomplish goals. But, not everyone in our network should be in our inner circle.
Our inner circle is tight-knit and reserved for the people closest to us. The people we love and trust. The ones we go to for advice and support. The ones who we share our special experiences, our precious possessions, and who we can rely on during our most vulnerable moments. As we grow our circle may decrease in size but it should increase in value.
As the New Year approaches, I encourage you to add expanding your network and strengthening your circle to the list of goals you have for yourself. I’ve found doing so has resulted in opportunities and experiences that have been nothing short of life changing. Since relationships continue to be a key to success here are a few ways to get the most out of yours:
- Be Curious – One of my favorite sayings is “if you want to have better conversations, ask better questions”. Be curious. Learn more about the people you meet, what makes them tick, what feel-good moments give them pleasure, and what challenges cause them pain. Learn about their background, their journey, and how they arrived at this place/event/situation or moment in time. It may feel weird at first, but you will get used to it. The more you know about someone, the easier it becomes to figure out how you can help them and how they may in turn help you.
- Make Yourself Useful – Find ways to add value. Don’t be pushy or overbearing, but if you notice an opportunity to help somebody reach their goals, politely offer to help. By sharing your knowledge, experiences, ideas or resources that can assist with moving people closer to success you create good vibes that make people want to be a part of your network.
- Be True to Your Word – If you say your going to do something, or say you can do something DO it. Period. There is no faster way to fall out of good graces than by being unreliable.
- Be Consistent –The devil is in the details, but the fortune is in the follow-up. Following up is key! Don’t just initiate contact when you need something. Check-in with people. See how they are doing, ask about their progress, give them an update on yours. In a time when social media and technology is the default mode of communication, a good ol’ fashioned phone call or face-to-face meet up can go a long way.
- Keep Your Circle Sharp –Our inner circle contains our most important relationships; therefore, it is important to help the people in our inner circle stay sharp. Iron sharpens iron, so while you’re out trying to save or take over the world, don’t forget to help the people who are closest to you. If you believe that like a chain your circle is only as strong as its weakest link, you will likely benefit from helping to strengthen the other links of your circle.
Remember, your network should always be bigger than your circle. I challenge you to expand the people in your network and work to sharpen the people your circle. Doing so may pose more risks, but it will likely garner bigger rewards. A proverb says “if you want to go quickly, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” If you want to go farther this year than you did in last year make sure relationships are a part of your journey. Make sure your network is working and expanding. And make sure you help your circle stay strong.
Cheers to the New Year. I’ll see you in the winner’s circle. Keep pushing.
In my previous post I described a training exercise that I led for a client yesterday. In the post I showed a picture that captured a team in the initial phases of becoming disengaged as the team got stuck trying to solve a problem.
This picture shows the final stages of that disengagement. At this point the ‘staff’ on the front line had almost completely checked out. We explain that this happens when leaders don’t fully engage their people. Don’t give them pertinent information. Don’t provide context or meaning about assignments, processes, roles, and responsibilities. People get confused, they get frustrated, they bicker and ultimately become unproductive. Because they were unable to communicate verbally during this exercise they were to supposed to write notes to each other to help solve the problem. Unfortunately leaders weren’t engaging the staff, managers weren’t engaging the staff, so instead of problem solving their communication devolved into something a bit less useful.
While this was only an exercise this is what we see happening routinely in our clients’ organizations. Our goal is help leaders become more effective by helping them understand how to create an environment where people feel valued, are engaged and appreciated for doing good work. When people feel good about the work they are performing, good about the environment they are performing it in, and good about the people they are performing with, they usually perform better.
Because it is ultimately the staff who will be charged with transforming a leader’s vision into reality, it is in a leader’s best interest to help their people do good work. Deming once said the “the opportunity to do good work is a birth right”. If this is true then leaders responsibility is not only operational but also divine. If you are a leader and you aren’t helping your people do good work you are not only doing them a disservice, you are doing yourself a one as well. So lead, follow, or get out the way!